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Empowerment Circles are for women/NB folk ages 18+ to gather with those in their community who want to talk about shit that actually matters + create positive change together. Anyone who wants to start an Empowerment Circle has access to this general how-to guide with best practices for getting started, facilitating conversations, and creating change. If that’s what you’re looking for, you’re in the right place.
Start where you are and use what you have! Invite your friends, coworkers, classmates, neighbors, or family members. Spread the word via social media, make fliers, or strike up a conversation at your local coffee shop. Remember that if you’re feeling inspired to have these conversations, there are undoubtedly others in your community who are craving them as well.
i am: that girl culture formula
AT EVERY MEET-UP OF YOUR EMPOWERMENT CIRCLe Start with Our Guidelines and agreements
Start here and modify these guidelines and agreements to suit your group and your collective needs.
o So that everyone can see everyone
o With less than one foot between anyone- proximity is important
o In your own words, tell everyone present: “You can be anywhere, and you’re here. Thank you for your time and attention and for being present in the time we have together."
SET THE INTENTION
o This is a space where you can be who you are, not who you think you’re supposed to be. We ask you to be honest, and vulnerable.”
o Express these agreements. Feel free to add your own as well. Make sure to get a verbal “yes” from everyone afterwards!
everyone has a chance to be heard - we don’t expect everyone to “agree with everyone” but we do expect everyone to be respectful and listen, that is a non-negotiable.
assume good intent
let yourself be the expert on you, and let others be the experts on themselves. tell your stories + avoid telling others’ stories for them.
o Vault: Anything discussed here is between us and in the vault.
o Safe word: This is an out if, at any point, someone needs to leave the room or stop talking.
SEND ENERGY AND LOVE TO THE PERSON SPEAKING
o Energy is neither created nor destroyed so make sure people are conscious of how their body language and energy is affecting the people who are speaking.
o If you are going to be so bold as to ask people to be vulnerable, be brave enough to go first.
o Acknowledge the courage it takes to be vulnerable (the number one fear above death is public speaking, so acknowledge that it’s scary and set the tone by going first and being authentic).
NOT ABOUT ADVICE, JUST ABOUT SUPPORT
o Let’s be conscious when someone is asking for advice and when they just need to be heard. Let this just be a space to be seen, and save the advice for a one on one session when asked for it.
o Empower all the people in your circle to acknowledge when their feelings have been hurt or they feel uncomfortable by saying “Ouch.” That immediately gives the other person the opportunity to say “oops,” and understand what went wrong.
o We always want to give someone the benefit of the doubt and assume they didn’t mean to hurt your feelings or make someone uncomfortable. Here we have the opportunity to teach each other how we need to be treated.
GIVE & RECEIVE COMPLIMENTS
o When someone gives you a compliment, say thank you.
o Look them in the eyes when saying it, it’s important to acknowledge and receive a “gift” when it is given.
o Give out compliments freely, y’all! Not just in meetings, always.
o Negative Self-Talk: When someone says something negative about themselves, say “Don’t talk about my friend like that” and lovingly inspire them to change their internal monologue through accountability.
o Gossip: When someone or a group of people are talking about someone else, lovingly change the subject or say something like, “Who knows what they are going through,” or “If they act that way to you, I can only imagine how hard they are on themselves,” or “You should really talk to them about that.”
o At the end of every meeting, take a moment to look every girl in the eyes and thank them for “showing up,” not just physically but emotionally, spiritually, and mentally. They could be doing ANYTHING with their time, but they chose to spend it there with you, so acknowledgement and appreciation for that is crucial to making them each feel individually special